Faheem: Potty Train & Diaperless

Faheem is now 3 years and 3 months young.

Sejujurnya, there's a few attempts to potty train him sebelum genap umurnya 3 tahun lagi.

Tapi, it wasn't a continuous effort.

On and off.

I started with asking my zawj to roll up our carpet..Making our home carpetless. That's the first thing to control, SPACE.

Next, is about TIME. Yang ni yang payah sikit. The only time yang kami ada untuk potty train Faheem is after working hours, weekdays only. Sebab weekend kami mostly at our parents house. Takkan nak gulung habis karpet rumah mak mertua kan..huhu.

So imagine, nak train him diaperless for just couple of hours, compared to the rest of the days yang dia ber-diapers...fuhhhh..

Then, the most important thing..PATIENCE..Which i'm lacking of in so many ways.
Aku adalah kurang penyabar. On my first attempt to potty train Faheem, for about half an hour only, hampir 4-5 kali I had to change his pants and wipe/mop the floor.. Aku tanya frequently and ajak dia ke toilet frequently. Masa tanya tu, dia refuse. The next second dia cakap dah kencing. Rasanya macam aku baru je toleh sekilas..Agagagaga... For the 5th time, aku terus pakaikan diapers. See how impatient I am. That does not include the nagging lagi..Aduhhh...Berasap telinga Faheem dengan ummi bebel.

These are the things yang membuatkan usaha aku jadi on and off.
Dalam masa yang sama, pengasuh pun ada jugak cuba nak potty train Faheem.
Tapi Faheem jawab, nak kat rumah je dengan ummi.
Pandai pulak bagi alasan. Genius!

This week, kami start balik setelah sekian lama tergendala. Thinking that next year insyaAllah dah nak sekolah. By hook or by crook, he have to be able to pee at the toilet before he enters school.
Jumaat malam, his score was 1/3. Sekali je Faheem berjaya pee kat toilet. Another 3 times, in the living area.
Sad for him, the third time, dia kena marah dengan ummi yang tak penyabar ni. Poor him.
Saturday & Sunday off sebab balik Gombak.
Monday, 15 Sept, aku MC due to food poisoning. So, aku amik peluang potty train Faheem.

Alhamdulillah. It was a success.
MasyaAllah tabarakallah...Faheem did a great job.
Belum sempat aku ingatkan dia nak ke toilet, dia dah terlebih dulu berlari ke toilet.
The first time dia berjaya pee di toilet by himself, he seems so happy.
Senyum sampai ke telinga. Ummi siap bersorak untuk Faheem, puji tinggi melangit, hugs and kisses for him. To let him know that his effort is really appreciated and that ummi is very proud with him.
Sampai ke malam. Dia masih bertahan kencing di toilet.
That night, kami terpaksa pujuk dia pakai diapers sebelum tidur. For the moment, kita diaperless on daytime dulu ye abang. Later on, baru proceed total diaperless ok.

The next day, we even took him out diaperless. He refuse to wear diapers even bila kami cakap nak keluar jalan-jalan, nanti dalam car on the road nak kencing macam mana? Dia tetap taknak pakai diapers. Ok, ummi dan abi agree with you. InsyaAllah you can get through it.
Then we have to keep asking him and ask him to hold kalau dah rasa nak kencing.
But again, with Allah's will, syukur Alhamdulillah, he made it through.
Paling tak tahan, bila abi cakap nak singgah petrol pump, dia tanya, ada toilet tak?
Soalan macam orang tua. Hahaha..
Everytime singgah mana-mana, mesti tanya dia nak kencing tak. Kadang-kadang dia jawab dengan geram bila abi asyik ajak pergi toilet.
Hehe..it makes sense..Dah tak rasa, camna nak paksa..kihkihkih..

Abi kata kena bagi reward dekat ummi dan Faheem.
Truth is, the person who really deserve the reward is Faheem himself.
He did such a brilliant act. Mungkin fobia kena marah dengan ummi..huhuhu..
Kasihan Faheem.
But these two days, you really win my heart.
Ummi saaaayang Faheem..

Ummi & Abi will think of the best reward for you, InsyaAllah.

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Update:
I forgot another important point here, which is TRUST.
Trust your children that he/she will be able to do their best. InsyaAllah, they will do just fine.
Sometimes, it is beyond your expectation..